Repair Anything: Couples Course

About the Course

Repair is the #1 skillset couples need to learn (if you want to maintain intimacy with your special person for life). Why? Without the ability to repair, you have no way to come back into connection after the disconnection of an argument. The result is, you eventually end up roommates because... Micro disconnection after micro disconnection (or big explosion) - the things that hurt you, bother you and upset you - are forced to get swept under the rug. Unable to get through to your partner, you end up feeling invisible. It's not the issue or topic you're fighting about, you're actually fighting to have a voice, fighting to have your feelings, needs, and perspective exist in the relationship. When you get hurt, you try to "accept it" or "let it go", but you can't really... The things you thought you "accepted" or "let go of" all come out eventually. They add up until you reach a breaking point and there's yet another explosion. So it's very important to see clearly: You're either growing together or growing apart. Growing Together: When you know how to repair: Connection -> Disconnection -> Repair -> Connection Growing Apart: When you don't know how to repair: Connection - > Disconnection -> Disconnection -> Disconnection, ad infinitum. Without the ability to repair, you're slowly growing apart, so slowly, most couples don't notice until it's almost too late. It's the straw that breaks the camel's back, and death by a thousand cuts. Couples come see me, when they're at their breaking point because... How can you stay with someone who can't acknowledge how they're hurting you? How can you stay with someone who blames you for getting upset? How can you stay with someone who gets defensive everytime you share what hurts or who can't empathize with your pain? How could you want to have sex with someone you don't feel connected to or who doesn't truly understand the pain they're causing you? Little things turn into big things when past unresolved arguments, breaks in trust, hurt and resentment compound over time into one big ball of resentment. This is why reactions seem so out of proportion to the situation... It's this build up of unresolved pain and resentment that contaminates present-day communication. Communication is not the real problem. The real problem, is the underlying pain, reactivity and self-protection that's actually in the way of effective communication. But when you learn The Caring for Couples Repair Process, you can actually resolve past hurt forever. The result is intimacy. Intimacy is that visceral feeling of closeness and connection we get to share when nothing's in the way. Repair allows you to reliably keep the space between you clean - free from lingering hurt and resentment that festers. The only way to maintain intimacy over a lifetime, is to learn repair. Most "better communication repair" skills on the internet are superficial. That's what happens when you treat symptoms... You get short-term improvement, but no real lasting change. You communicate "better" but you still feel incomplete. The repair I'm talking about is the kind of repair that actually resolves root issues forever, where you have what I call an "OMG YES! Experience." Everyday, when couples I work with have this experience, I hear them say: "Wow... you've never understood me like that before." "***silence*** That was the first time you've ever truly understood me." "YES! Exactly! Thank you!" When you feel completely understood, it's like you get to breathe for the first time, a weight is lifted, and your relational dynamic is changed forever. The magic happens, not when you understand your partner, but when you help them FEEL understood. Big difference. That's what I guide you to do. I help couples (usually on the brink of breakup or divorce) do what they think is impossible… Heal extreme hurt & resentment (even infidelity, emotional abuse and "cataclysmic events") after decades of disconnection in less than 3 to 6 hours (without years of therapy). Are you ready to learn The Caring for Couples Repair Process? I teach couples how to use conflict to actually grow closer so they don't end up roommates and they're empowered to repair any argument, hurt and resentment with confidence for the rest of their lives